As a Colts fan, it pains me to admit that Tom Brady is one of the best quarterbacks of all time.
The interesting thing about Tom Brady, though, is that everyone almost missed him.
He was drafted 199th overall as a 4th-string quarterback (hardly any NFL teams have 4th-string quarterbacks). He almost didn’t make it into the NFL! One of the greatest quarterbacks of all time almost didn’t get drafted.
This interesting story from the Signal V. Noise blog points out that the NFL and other sports organizations have developed a series of tests (called “combines”) to try to predict who the top-performing athletes will be.
Tom Brady was awful in the NFL combine, and thus didn’t get noticed as a potentially great quarterback.
We might just think this is a nice rags-to-riches story, but here’s the thing: Tom Brady isn’t the exception, either. He’s the rule. This happens all the time.
The physical tests they created to find great athletes (and weed out the bad ones) simply do not predict performance levels. The combines don’t work. They regularly fail to predict athlete performance.
Who is good at making disciples?
So what does this have to do with making disciples? A lot, I think.
Here’s what I mean. The “combines” we have for church leadership regularly fail to predict the ability to do the things Jesus said were most important.
We know how to find and train people who can communicate well. People who are diplomatic and likable. People who dazzle with their oratory skills. People who can lead large organizations.
Those are all things that are fine and good, but they aren’t the things Jesus said were important.
Jesus taught his disciples that leaders are people who lay down their lives for others out of love. Where is the combine for that? Why is that not something we attempt to observe in someone’s life before sending them off to seminary?
Starting over half-way through
I remember when this began to dawn on me.
I was standing in my kitchen after a frustrating evening. I was wanting to introduce some structural changes to our church that I felt would help us live on mission more effectively.
Awesome, right? Who doesn’t want to be more effective in mission? But my grand new ideas weren’t met with enthusiasm. Revival didn’t break out. Instead, anxiety broke out.
People had questions. They were struggling with the proposed changes. They didn’t understand why change was needed. They liked the way things had been in the past.
I had so many good arguments for them about why it was necessary and how effective it was going to be. I’m a pretty good arguer, too. I answered every objection and proved my point.
I felt like progress was made that evening. I felt like I had “won,” but for some reason I still felt frustrated. I was trying to push this agenda through and these people just “didn’t get it.”
After everyone left I was standing in the kitchen, wiping down the counter, and I began complaining to God about it. Why weren’t people on board with these great ideas? How can I convince them to make this journey with me?
Over the next few minutes, God gently revealed to me that while I had presented a case and won an argument, that I wasn’t even thinking about how to love the people who came to my house that evening.
I was so intent on proving my point and pushing my agenda that I didn’t even see that people were in pain right in front of me. I never once thought about how best to love the people in my living room. I only had thought about getting them to do something for me.
It was embarrassing to realize that love was simply not on my radar very much.
As I’ve written before, I thought of love as “nice-to-have,” but not necessary. Ornamental but not vital. Love made things “feel” nice but it wasn’t powerful.
Ultimately this was the reason I wasn’t very good at making disciples. You have to lay down your life to make a disciple. You have to love people to help them follow Jesus, because that was the one command that summed up all the others for Jesus.
I felt like I was starting over as a leader. And in many ways, I was!
A new way to measure
I had passed all the “combines” that were supposed to measure whether I had what it takes to be a leader in the church, but I was complete rubbish at the one thing Jesus said mattered.
Likewise, how many wonderful leaders have we missed out on in the church because we just weren’t looking for the right things?
How many disciple-making elders have we overlooked because they didn’t do well in our “combines”?
And what would it look like if we started developing new “combines”?
What would happen if the process of identifying and training leaders in our churches had more to do with observing the character of Jesus, expressed in tangible love for others?
What if our “first filters” for our leadership pipelines included observable expressions of love over time?
What if love, as practiced and expressed by Jesus, became the thing we were known for as Christians?
Great stuff, Ben. I’ve been there and struggled to love people over my vision or plan. Thanks for your transparency.
Thanks also for bringing up such an important topic to wrestle with. We must change what we measure. As they say, “What gets celebrated gets repeated.”What do we celebrate? is another way to ask “What are we counting or measuring?”
I want to make disciples who make disciples who make disciples. Creating a culture that does that is my aim. But it’s so much easier said than done. How do you count/measure this?
DarienGabriel Great question, Darien. I think before I would have simply said you find a way to measure the character and competency of Jesus… which is a tad vague, though. I wonder if churches ought to create some kind of “spiritual formation inventory” that has questions that allow people to reflect on whether or not they’re growing in love. Specific questions like “Am I bitter toward anyone?” or “Have I become less angry in the last year?” It’d be fun to come up with something like that!
I wonder if Willow’s Reveal Now survey does that?
DarienGabriel could be. I haven’t looked at it deeply enough to know.
I love your honesty here. And I could relate my own experience to this same lesson from God.
However, I hope this is just your first swipe at this idea. I hope this was the 30,000 ft view and that you will dig deeper than just ID’ing the problem and then pointing a simplistic solution like looking for folks who are sacrificing now.
If YOU could make a Jesus combine…what would it be? Did Jesus say any more on the topic in your mind? What was Paul’s and Peter’s idea of a combine?
I think too many people point to the “qualifications” for an elder, but those are really low standards. Paul might as well as said – “They can’t be jackasses or new to the faith.”
I mean, asking a man to be of one wife and not a drunkard and not a jerk and able to teach isn’t really grad school in Christian growth, ya know?
But what about what he was looking for in his apostolic team that he trained in Ephesus? That would be an interesting study to do!
Anyways, any initial thoughts?
BradMcDaniel Yeah – there’s only so much you can do in a blog post, of course, but agree that some kind of “combine” would be worth developing.
My partner and I do some training on how to actually love others like Jesus did, calibrating grace and truth in every interaction, every relationship. I’d have to think about the kinds of things we train people in to start “quantifying” things into a “combine.”
We talk about being able to maintain empathy and boundaries at the same time. I find I also watch for how people treat those who can’t do anything for them (children, the elderly, lower social classes). I watch for how well people honor the person in front of them, how well people pay attention to others, how many genuinely curious questions they ask of others, whether they are always learning or if they take an “expert” posture… those kinds of things!
Werner Olivier says
Great post Ben.I think all 9 Fruits of the Spirit are important for a Leader or person making Disciples.I think Love is for a reason number 1 in the Fruit of the Spirit because our Master’s language is love and it will stay for ever like that,and nothing but nothing will work out without it.All 9 Fruits of the Spirit are central in our daily faith and without it,anxiety will follow as you mentioned in your post.
Werner Olivier Thanks Werner – I like to think of the “fruits” of the Spirit as facets of the diamond of love. They describe what love lives like. Blessings!